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| A Lost Soul |
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| Hey hot girl,
I'm a sophomore and recently my girl broke up with me. We met during orientation week at the beginning of freshman year. It was fate that brought us together and we quickly both found that we were in love. It blossomed beautifully over the past year and a half and it appeared to me that I had found the reason for living, in love and all of life's questions ceased to matter. To make things even better, not only was she my lover, but also my best friend. I had every reason to believe she felt the same way, anyone would when told how in love with you the other person was, so often. I saw her gaze into my eyes and beyond, into my soul, my very being and tell me from her's that she was so deeply in love with me and any doubts I ever held about the relationship vanished. At 19 it was a struggle to think I had found my soul mate but that was the conclusion I drew. Soon, very soon in fact after the night she uttered those words there was a change. She came to me saying that her feelings had changed and I found out that there was another guy in her life. She went through a transformation of sorts and now will hardly even respond to me when I try and figure out what happened. My heart is broken and i am listless and alone. My friends and family give me advice yet none of it actually helps. Is it possible that her feelings could actually just change like that? The only time any of this is bearable is when I think that she will once again be mine someday. The game tires me now and after trying to date other girls it only proves to me that nothing but love can appease me now. I have lost a best friend and a lover and myself in the process. What am I to do?
Lost Soul |
Dear Lost Soul,
Yes, it is possible for feelings to change like that. You can fall out of love just as fast as you fall in. And there's no explanation for that. The problem is that you get hit by it so hard that you're left dazed and confused. You can't process what just happened. That's why the advice from your friends and family doesn't help. You need to take time to sort things out by yourself. This is the healing process you're going through, and it may take awhile.
I'm going to try to give you, not so much of an advice, but some clues to help you sort things out. Let's look at your feelings from different perspectives. Perspective 1: If you love her as much as you say, then it shouldn't matter if she's with you or not. You should be happy for her. Perspective 2: If you want her all to yourself, then maybe it's not love. Maybe it's lust or a sense of possessiveness that we all have. Either way, it's not the love that I explained in perspective 1. Perspective 3: She may be going through a phase and may realize soon that you are her true love. If you are gone when she finds that out, then that's the end of the story. So you may want to stick around as a good friend and wait for her to go through the phase. The downside of that is that she may not be going through a phase, and she's really gone. Either way if you really love her, be her best friend with no reservations.
In any case, you have lost someone very valuable to you. It may be a temporary loss or permanent. The healing process may take a while. Meanwhile, dating others may make you feel even worst but would give you a chance to try other opportunities in life. You may find someone else that you love even more. That's very possible. And you'll look back and everything with your current love would make a lot more sense. You may start to see the flaws in your relationship that you subconsciously ignored (we call that denial). You are in a tough situation and you just have to stay rational and deal with it.
Take care,
-Hotgirl |
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