|
Ever wondered what all the good looking girls are thinking? Ever wanted to know what the secret is to picking up a guy and getting him to do what you want? Well nows your chance to find out. Ask CollegeBoredom's resident hot girl a question and she will do her best to answer it.
|
Having Relationship Problems?
This book may help
Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay
A Step-By-Step Guide to Helping You Decide Whether to Stay in Or Get Out of Your Relationship
|
|
Got a question? E-mail hotgirl@collegeboredom.com
By the way, Hot Girl's advice is for entertainment purposes only. If the symptoms don't improve in 72 hours, visit your nearest night club or mall.
Joke: The story of a shy guy
Back To hotgirl E-mails
| How do I change the pace of things? |
X/10 |
|
Hey Hot Girl,
Now I know I should probably be asking a guy this but I thought I
should
start with you and see if you had anything to say that might shine new
light
on my situation. So here goes.
I have been with this guy for a long time. It will be four years this July
and before that we were on and off for at least another year. Christmas
2002
he proposed and I said yes. He won a contest and there was a billboard and
TV interviews and radio interviews. Anyway, I know he loves me. And I love
him. But every time I bring up marriage or the future or even moving in
together he changes the subject. I'm starting to get the feeling he
doesn't
WANT to marry me.
Problem #2. He got this new job that has him working obnoxious hours. So
we
see each other two nights a week. That's it. But every time we see each
other, it seems like its all about sex. Maybe my libido is slowing down or
something, but I just don't WANT sex every time I see him. I want to
cuddle
and talk and stuff like that. How do I get him to slow down and enjoy the
not so sexual stuff? Don't get me wrong the sex is great, but sometimes it
can be a little overwhelming.
Thanks,
In Need of Brakes
|
Dear In Need of Brakes,
I hope that by now you've resolved your issues in the dating department, but if not, here's what I think. It sounds like neither you nor your boyfriend/fiance are ready for marriage at this point; although he IS a guy and is less likely to be interested in discussions over wedding details, his apparent lack of enthusiasm for the celebration of his decision to spend the rest of his life with you and growing closer to each other smacks of immaturity. It's perfectly natural for both of you to feel overwhelmed by this new major development in your relationship, but it's not wrong for you to expect him to play a more active role in the process than the one he's currently filling.
As far as your waning libido goes, it's probably due to internal stress over the prospect of marriage and lifelong commitment, but may also be your body's response to the discord you currently feel between you and your partner. You both need to be able to openly, calmly, and rationally discuss how you feel about where you're headed with each other. If you feel you can't talk to him about it, you may need to re-evaluate whether you're ready for marriage just yet.
Hope this helps!
- Hotgirl
|
Got a question? E-mail hotgirl@collegeboredom.com
|
